Hello. Who shouts obscenities in the streets? How many people are happy to hear someone swearing as they walk by? Who would enjoy hearing curses aimed at their mother, sister, spouse, or child? And yet, who curses at others' loved ones, family members, or anyone close to them? Today, let’s talk about not being able to express our feelings without swearing—or rather, learning how to express emotions without resorting to vulgarity.
Basic human emotions include happiness, sadness, fear, disgust, anger, and surprise. Throughout the day, we feel these emotions and express them in different ways. Although swearing is a common, negative way of expressing emotions, it is certainly not the healthiest or most effective. When we swear, we reinforce negativity, almost celebrating it. What if, instead of staying silent, people openly showed disapproval whenever someone cursed? How many would still feel encouraged to keep swearing?
Swearing causes harm to relationships, as the one swearing often fails to realize how they might hurt others. After all, who feels happy when cursed at? And if anyone does, why do those who swear get angry when the tables turn?
What value do you think someone who swears holds in the eyes of others? People might fear them or find it difficult to speak out for various reasons, but that doesn’t mean anyone wants to be surrounded by such a toxic atmosphere. Some might say, “I like swearing” or even “I use curses in every other sentence.” If that’s the case, what can really be said to them? Just like when you eat onions or garlic, your breath smells like it; maybe you could try freshening up a bit.
Some who swear may excuse it with statements like, “I’m used to it.” Well, with some effort, you could just as easily get used to positive habits. The choice is yours. It’s up to you to decide how you’ll use your willpower.
There’s also the matter of those who swear compulsively or suffer from what they call a “tic.” In this case, both the person with the tic and those encouraging them are at fault. It’s like provoking the village fool and then blaming them for acting out. Those with tics need to find constructive ways to express themselves, and those encouraging it should check themselves. Here, both the one swearing and the one who provokes are responsible. And to those who obsess over someone else’s “tic,” ask yourself: What are you getting out of it? Go find yourself another hobby, friend.
For all of us, dealing with strong emotions is a natural part of life. But when swearing becomes a normalized way of expressing these emotions, we have a problem. It’s almost as if swearing has become the norm, and those who don’t swear are seen as outliers. Negative behaviors can exist in any culture, but they are still negative. If swearing were a positive and commendable behavior, it would be taught in schools. Imagine if “cursing” were the first lesson of the day—there would certainly be an audience for it.
If a parent doesn’t want their child to swear, they should start by changing their own habits. And if someone is uncomfortable with their parents swearing, they should follow the same approach. Yes, we might not be able to change other people's behavior, but by changing our own, we might contribute to a more pleasant atmosphere.
Are you angry? Explain calmly what has upset you. Describe what’s bothering you and choose your words carefully, so you don’t sour the environment. Don’t act as if you’re the only one who’s ever felt such strong emotions. Do you think others who don’t swear haven’t faced similar struggles? Come on, let’s be real. List your grievances—all of these are things non-swearers experience too. Thinking you’re special or above others for swearing is just arrogance. Who do you think you are? Another human being, just like me. Let’s drop the melodrama. You have control and responsibility over your own actions, not others. You are responsible for yourself.
To those who annoy others with their constant swearing, as if it’s some sort of talent—here’s a reminder: You’re not the only one who experiences intense emotions. Everyone feels admiration, joy, worry, fear, amazement, jealousy, excitement, horror, happiness, longing, sadness, and appreciation from time to time. So what’s so unique about that? Do you think you’re the first to make a mistake? You’re not the first person to feel frustrated. And guess who’s experienced it all? Can’t figure it out? Take a breath, calm down, and think it over.
And to those who laugh when a celebrity or artist curses—if you’re uncomfortable with swearing, let it be known. At the very least, show disapproval. The person swearing might not feel embarrassed, but if you don’t speak up, you’re hiding your own discomfort. That’s not the way! You can’t improve society by ignoring your personal responsibilities. A comedian should perform without cursing. If they can’t, they should move on.
Final note: Hey, you there, swearing person! Find creative ways to express yourself without polluting the atmosphere, environment, or society. Maintain courtesy, and let’s journey together toward a peaceful, curse-free world.
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